Butches/Futches/etc... where ARE you

Sorry if this is a weird question but seriously, where are you? I'm a femme and find you so hot but so elusive!

I go to quite a few queer events in my area, and the wlw I meet are mostly femmes - especially at wlw-specific events. There's actually a monthly butch-centric event but 1) as a femme I feel like I'd be invading a space that's not meant for me, and 2) classic lesbian problem, the organiser is exes with one of my close friends... less classic, said ex was really horrible to my friend (biphobic among other things), and has said some very sus stuff behind closed doors (e.g. they boasted about having a thing for "turning" straight girls... they worded it in a way worse way though lol). While this doesn't speak at ALL to the character of the people who frequent this person's events (most of them don't know about any of this AFAIK), I don't feel comfortable going and therefore supporting the organiser.

Obviously this depends on both individual preference/interests and the local area which I can't really name... so I know you can't give me an exact answer! But... if queer events aren't the place to meet yall, where else? This is such a broad question because literally every single person is going to have a different answers but in general are there any hobbies or activities that seem to be more popular with the butch/futch crowd?

I've been trying to just carry on with my day to day life and do stuff I enjoy and hopefully meet people through shared interests that way but no luck, and dating apps seem not to work either, so I need to know what the secret third option is 😩

EDIT: Should have probably specified... I'm in the UK :(