Is Gay Dating Even Worth It Anymore?

I've been reading a bunch of posts here, speaking to couples (mainly in NY) and even know some therapists/physcotherapists personally, and it just seems like gay dating is stacked against us. I'm trying to be real here, not pessimistic, but it seems like with the below, my time may be better served calling quits while I can?

We already have a limited population to date from (even if you live in a big city).

Then from that population, most just want sex and not a LTR (and if they do they want open and causal etc) or are just not into you.

Then you have issues around top/vers/btm and what not.

Then you have mental issues to deal with and/or ex break ups and hang ups and/or wanting other things from life 'suddenly' and/or becoming insecure about you and/or communication issues and/or narcissism and/or something I have not thought of.

Then you have all the 1 date, 2 date people who just ghost for whatever reason.

Now (through a miracle) assume you find someone who is also into you.

Now you have issues of cheating, wanting an open relationship a few years in, etc to deal with. And then of course other crisis' which could just lead to them still splitting (given how easy it is now to just break things). I believe there is a data point that 60% of gay men above 45 are single and I'm now seeing why.

It looks bleak at best and I'm struggling to keep staring at the grid and putting in the energy into finding someone to share my life with, given I am basically half way through life, and am not really seeing any light at the end of the tunnel.