Men who've hit that midlife wall - how did you break through it (or did you)?

In my early 40's and feeling stuck. Like life's on autopilot and I'm craving something more. Call it a midlife crisis or just realizing time's flying by, but I'm at that point where I want change, purpose, and to feel alive again.

So for anyone who's been here:

-What actually helped you get out of that rut?

-What didn't help or made it worse?

Looking for real advice, not clichés. How did you navigate it.

Appreciate the insights.