Found disturbing things in my 12 year olds room.

Im so heartbroken and still in shock. I can not wrap my head around it.

He had a big box of women's sex clothes and some pink stripper shoes- size 13. I'm talking - crotchless fishnets- spiked pink choker.. thigh highs... and one outfit had gloves with paws on it. WTF

I immediately checked his metaquest and sure enough he has been reading and watching "femboy" stuff.

Apparently he is wearing these and watching at some point at night when everyone goes to bed?

My son is 12, he is 5'9 and never gets in trouble...but he also has no friends. Has never had a single sleepover here or anywhere else.

I've always tried to protect my kids from things on the internet. P0rn especially. I've always kept parental controls on. I thought the only thing I would have to worry about was kids at school.

He got the MetaQuest for Christmas. We all played with it at first so I didn't think anything of it.

My biggest thing is.. he has taken it to the point of ordering these things to actually participate in ADULT things.

Maybe if it was just some girlie clothes it would not be so bad.. but this is definitely performance attire.

I have no idea how to approach or address it. I didn't even know he was into that stuff. I eidnt even know he had ever seen p0rn!

The adult stuff will not be tolerated .. he is a child. If he is into guys .. ok that's one thing.. but the outfits and p0rn - he knew better. We talked about that so many times.

He will be home from school soon. I'm not okay.

I have literally no one to talk to about it. Idk anyone who has gone through ANYTHING like this.