About Ben, the classic Midwestern White Man™

I don't think Ben is the vile, toxic, loud, spews hate, worships Trump type of guy, but he IS the also very problematic quiet "family values" man who doesn't talk about politics but implicitly supports conservative policies. It's a very Midwest guy thing to "stay out of the drama" and only vocally support "common sense politics" (an example is the rape, incest, life of the mother exception for abortion). These men and their partners may think they're unique or different because of so-and-so but they rarely deviate from this prototype that I will lay out.

• He's the good white boy who doesn't question his conservative parents and likely sees them as his role models, labels himself a good Christian, and has never deeply connected with someone who's a POC, queer, or of a lower socioeconomic status. His close friends are all white and of the same social circle/background. He exclusively dates straight white women.
• He aspires to have the same comfortable, wholesome, American life his parents and grandparents did, with a steady job, a home close to his parents, a white wife of a similar background/social circle, and a few kids.
• He thinks others can have their opinions, but it's too much effort or drama for him to be involved in. He will never vocally support or post about politics on his socials but he may share some opinions over a beer with his friends. If you ask him one-on-one about his political views, he might say "all politicians are the same and corrupt" or "both sides have their problems" or "I don't know enough to have an opinion". Spoiler, he will never find the motivation to educate himself because he will never be affected. He will never step out of his comfort zone because he's happy right where he is.
• He may claim to be "apolitical" or "moderate" or "socially liberal and fiscally conservative" or "doesn't judge others for their politics". He is uncomfortable with "that community" (aka LGBTQ people) who are "that way" but he will tolerate them and will be outwardly polite. At the same time, he will continue to support homophobic conservative politicians (either explicitly through his voting or implicitly through his lack of voting) because they "put more money in his pocket". He believes everything should be earned through "merit and hard work" and so privately, he does not support social welfare programs or DEI initiatives. He only follows domestic politics and doesn't really follow world politics like the war in Gaza. If you ask him what matters to him the most, it's "faith and family".
• He thinks of himself as a "good person" since he will always outwardly treat people with respect and be polite and thinks "all lives matter". At the same time, he will never take a stand for marginalized people or use his privilege to uplift others. He may disavow explicitly hateful, racist rhetoric, but can't bring himself to say BLM. At most, he posted a black square on IG during the George Floyd protests.
• He may have traveled to Latin America or Asia, on vacations or a study abroad or perhaps on volunteer missionary work through his church, and think of himself as "worldly" or proudly list flag emojis of all the countries he's visited on his dating profile. However, he hasn't learned anything truly meaningful or will care about these marginalized groups back home in the US. He thinks his "insert European country or Native American" heritage makes him spicy or different from other white people, but not too spicy to be "other" like POC or queer people.

Edit: A few people aren't getting the point which is that these men only care about getting their cut of the American Dream even at the expense of other less privileged people. They don't understand the experience of being a marginalized person and the importance of social welfare programs, so they dislike the idea of people getting "handouts". These men claim to be faithful to God, but ignore the Bible's teachings about helping the poor, the homeless, and foreigners. They aren't loud and don't spew hate like neo-Nazis or Trump bros, but like them, they struggle to empathize with POC or queer people. Because of this, they fly under the radar and women tolerate this lack of empathy even if their beliefs are different. White women tend to be more progressive because they have witnessed or experienced marginalization in the form of sexism and misogyny. The Midwest White Man grows up in more homogenous communities with less diversity, which is how they are different from other white men in other parts of the country.