He wasn't what he claimed to be. Please be aware

A throwaway for obvious reasons.

Added a TLDR for you. Ik it's a big mess but please stay with me.

I'm 21F, a writer and an artist. A few months ago, someone approached me on Instagram, praising my work. I thanked him, and he claimed to be a writer too—at least that’s what he said. We started talking, and eventually, we got close.

He opened up to me, and I did the same. Within weeks, we grew close. He acted like the perfect guy—giving me all the time and effort, making me believe we had so much in common: faith, caste, everything. At least, that’s what I thought.

He proposed. I was hesitant but eventually accepted. He claimed he wasn’t religious, and every time I asked, he’d brush it off. Whenever I posted something religious, he’d ask me to delete it, saying it was cringe. He told me to avoid going to the temple so often because "we don’t get enough time together." And dumb me didn’t think much of it—I just thought he wanted more time with me. He also kept telling me not to be so spiritual, ranting about how religion is ruining everything.

But okay, we worked through it. We got close and eventually decided to meet. And that’s when everything changed.

We were talking, and suddenly, he asked to check my phone. I gave it to him without a second thought, but when I asked for his, he got defensive. Then he got a call from his mom, and the name flashed as “Ammi Jaan” with a moon emoji. I asked about it, and he brushed it off, saying he just thought it looked cool. Something felt off, but I let it slide.

Then, he asked me if I wanted to go to a room with him or something. I had already made it clear that I didn’t want anything physical before marriage, but he kept insisting. I said NO loudly.

Later, we got into a rickshaw, and suddenly, a guy stopped beside him, called him by a completely different name, and said "Namaz padne nahin aaye?" My whole body went numb. He didn't say a word. The guy looked at me, then just left silently.

I immediately got off the rickshaw and went inside a café. He ran after me, panicking, saying, "No, it’s not what you think!" And then he dropped a whole damn bomb—he followed a different faith, he had lied to me about his name, about everything.

And then this f*cker started making excuses—saying he didn’t want to lose me, that he wanted to marry me. I was in shock. I just asked him one thing: "Will you allow me to follow my faith after marriage?"

He didn't say a word.

I told him, "You better not have a problem if I go to the temple or wear a kalava." And this motherf*cker had the audacity to say, "How can you do that!?"

I immediately called one of my friends and asked her to come. The moment he heard that, he started begging, saying, "We can work this out," and all that bullshit. But thankfully, I was in my senses. I just walked outside and stood next to the security guard so he couldn't say anything to me. My friend arrived, picked me up, and dropped me home.

And then, I just cried. I cried horribly. And suddenly, every single thing he had ever said or done made sense. Why he kept asking me to delete religious posts. Why he taunted me for being spiritual. Why he wanted me to stop going to the temple.

He kept calling and texting over and over. I blocked him everywhere. Disgusting, cheap, shameless f*cker.

I feel so guilty for wasting so much time on him. But at the same time, I’m so f*cking relieved that I never got physical with him.

And now, all the news that’s been going around about certain things? It suddenly makes so much sense.

TLDR:

Met a guy on Instagram who praised my work. We got close, and he seemed like the perfect match—same values, same beliefs (or so I thought). He proposed, I accepted, and everything seemed fine.

Slowly, he started pushing me to stop posting religious content, avoid going to the temple, and be less spiritual. I brushed it off, thinking he just wanted more time with me.

Then, when we met in person, things got weird. He got defensive when I asked for his phone, had his mom’s contact saved as “Ammi Jaan” with a moon emoji, and a random guy called him by a different name, asking why he hadn’t come for Namaz. My gut told me something was off.

I confronted him, and he dropped the bomb—he had lied about his faith, his name, everything. Then he had the audacity to say I shouldn’t follow my faith after marriage. That was it. I called my friend, made sure I was safe, and cut him off completely.

Blocked him everywhere. Felt disgusted for wasting my time, but at least I never got physical with him. And now, all the news I’ve been seeing? It all makes sense.

What a disgusting creepy shameless cheap horrible guy !!!