Ex boyfriend told his family I had an abortion
I’ll try to keep this short and coherent.
I recently had an abortion due to primarily not wanting to be a mother and secondly, my ex was very abusive towards me, even during the pregnancy. After I took the medication for the abortion, I was awoken out of my sleep last night by my ex as he came in the room telling me that he told his pro-life family about the abortion and “they all hate me now”, then which he tried to tell me I have a week to get my shit and leave. From what I picked up, his mother insisted that since “I’m grown enough to get an abortion, I am grown enough to support myself”, which is HILARIOUS coming from her but that is another story. Anyways, once he sees that I don’t care about his latest taunting method because I am currently bleeding my brains out, he then tries to say his mother wants to speak with me about God knows what. I honestly can’t believe this is the reality that I have made for myself and I feel like a complete idiot for even getting pregnant by this guy.
I am willing to go further into detail if anyone wants, I just really needed to get this off my chest and thanks to anyone who takes the time to read my rant.
Update: I wanted to thank everyone for being so encouraging to a stranger :) I luckily have some great friends and I am currently staying with one of them as I apartment shop. I’ll take the initiative to change my phone number for safe keeping and I am also looking into getting a restraining order as my ex has memorized my grandmother’s address and I don’t want him pulling up to that poor woman’s house only to find disappointment and possibly hurt my grandmother.
For a little more context on the situation though:
I am 23 years old currently working full time and in school full time (couldn’t decide on my major lol I’m studying to be an ultrasound sonographer)
My ex boyfriend is 23 as well but he makes substantially more money than I do, hence why we were staying together for about 3 years despite the abuse beginning around year 2.
Prior to the abortion, I’ve made it clear to my ex that I did not plan on having any children and if I were to fall pregnant anytime soon, termination would be my final decision. Now anyone who’s been in an abusive relationship will know that him “accepting my decision” was complete bullshit and instead of coming to me as an adult and professing his true feelings, which was that he wanted to be a father, he resulted in emotionally and sometimes physically abusing me. Some of his actions included constantly accusing me of cheating with anyone that had a dick within an 2 mile radius from me despite having no proof and being reassured multiple times, going through my phone while I was asleep, snatching my phone out my hands and threatening to throw it out of a moving car, telling my medical history to his family without my consent, hitting me out of frustration when I stood up for myself, stalking my friends to tell them how much of a cheating bitch I am and much more.
I decided that him gathering his family for a witch hunt was beyond the last straw and I do not regret my abortion at all. If anything, I am just grateful that I would not have subject an innocent child into such chaos, especially with most of my family living halfway across the country. The women in his family believe that you must take responsibility and raise any children that happen to enter your womb, which for them has resulted in multiple children out of wedlock and being stuck in abusive relationships. I basically took their advice as “If I had to suffer, so do you”. Mind you, his own mother was a teen mom that was impregnated by a grown man at fifteen. My grandmother always told me that people who have children young never mentally mature and sadly his mother is the epitome of that. I hope that anyone who is a similar situation can understand that abuse is never your fault and it is never too late to call it quits.