Anyone else finding that guys are expecting really intense stuff from hookups recently?

It seems like I keep having the same very intense and unpleasant hookup over and over recently. Has anyone else experienced this? I’ll try to be reasonably non-explicit but… I am describing a hookup.

It’s always the same. As soon as I come over, it’s a brief kiss and an immediate head push down. They then want serious throat, no breaks, no hands, no reaction to gagging, these men are out here expecting the fleshlight treatment for 5-15 min straight. Then, they always want doggy style (not my favorite but fine), but they try WITH NO LUBE, which… I guess that’s what the throating was for? Sometimes it works okay but often it really doesn’t, and if I ask for lube they’re usually put out and sulky about it, sometimes they don’t even have any. And then they won’t switch positions, they’re annoyed if I ask for a break, they’re just generally really really bad lays.

Now I get it, lots of men are awful and hookups suck sometimes. But the expectation of serious deep throat and no lube seems WILD to me, especially without any discussion in advance of dom/sub or rough dynamics. This exact series of events has happened to me with at least 8 or 9 hookups since the summer, and these guys of different ages, races, and backgrounds. Has it always been like this? Has something shifted recently? Or am I just unlucky lately? I’m curious whether anyone has any thoughts on this.