Why the heck do nparents hate when someone else other than them give you gifts???
My nmother just saw me with new boots and instantly became all inquisitive, asking me where did I get them, what are those, ecc.. I said that my bf's parents gifted me the boots, she asked "WHY" so "EARLY". I told her that it was because they wanted to see if the boots fit me, and in case not they would've changed them. She was like "nooo, I do not like this, I do not like them" and "if you needed new shoes you could've asked".
Yeah, really, said the one that didn't give me a gift since 2018 lmao And also the one that gets angry whenever I ask her for clothes (basically almost never) and tells me to buy them on my own (I'm still not financially stable).
She always acted like this whenever my bf's parents gifted me something. Also, straightforwardly critiquing the beauty of the gifts. Also she HATES when my bf's mother gives me some clothes that do not fit her anymore and she would be sad if she had to throw them away (she doesn't have a daughter to give the clothes). Meanwhile, my mother gave me some jeans that didn't fit her and when she got slimmer, she took them back, bruh.
I told her she was jealous, she got very defensive, like a goddamn child. She tried to explain why she didn't like this gesture, she just told me to go away. The most "smart" explanation from her was "N...no, this is not normal, why do you have to receive things from other people? You do not appreciate us, what we do for you and appreciate the others" First of all, YOU gave me trauma and the need to go to a psychologist in secret, and THEY gave me love and made me feel like home. But I do not have the courage to tell her. That will be the last thing I will tell her when I will go out of this stupid place.
Sorry for the long essay, I want to know your experiences and how you dealt with it, it is freaking ridiculous. Love y'all <3