My girlfriend (18F), is acting cold and distant towards me (20M), and I don’t know what to do.

I’m a (20M), and I’m really worried about my (18F) girlfriend. We live together, and have been together for roughly a year and things were going great—we got along well and handled our problems maturely. We’ve always had each other’s backs as we figure out adulthood together.

Lately, though, I’ve been feeling restless because I do almost all the cleaning. I brought it up to her a couple of times in a calm, respectful way, but nothing changed. Eventually, the stress caught up to me, and I had a bit of a breakdown—I ended up crying in front of her. She comforted me, gave me a long hug, and we went to bed.

Since then, she’s been really distant and cold, and it’s making me anxious. When I tried talking to her about it, she wouldn’t open up at first. Last night, she finally told me she feels like she’s slipping into depression and just wants to be alone, but because we share a room, she can’t. She also said I wouldn’t understand. I told her, I might not fully get it, but I respect it and will give you space. At the same time, I was honest about feeling hurt because I’ve always tried to be there for her—not to fix things, just to listen and support her.

Lately, she comes home late, barely talks to me, and when I call, she’s cold and dismissive. Every time I try to address it, she just says, Leave me alone and let me deal with my problems. So I do. But this is really hurting me, and I don’t know how much longer I can take it before it seriously affects me.

I don’t know what to do—can anyone help?